Another Sad and Lonely individual in the making!!!

Well I have been in a relationship for the past 3 years and supported this woman through a messy divorce and then unfortunately got so involved that I fell in love with her and her kids, due to historical financial issues (my ex) I have caused a few hickups in the road of life and now due to her becoming stable and able to stand on her own two feet I find I am rapidly becoming surplus to requirements.

There are a few financial issues that need to be cleared up, I have some of her money in one of my bank accounts and it seems that yesterday she has started to remove said money from the account, recently took out car finance to replace her car while she paid of my bike loan. Yes it got deep very quickly and now it seems that she is backing out of everything due to me being obsessive and wanting to try and keep her safe and away from anything that would harm her.

I have been kicked in the past by a few woman and this one I actually thought I would grow old with, I completely adore this one and feel that I could never find a replacement that is so good looking, sexy and above all loving all due to me being a plonker historically.

I have no mates that can go out on the beer in the local area, no real outlet for my frustration and I don’t want to become yet another sado that sits in the pub on their own drinking till they stagger home to bed on their own.

How can I dig myself out of this total and utter hole I seem to have dropped into. I am over the 40 barrier, grey and not as bad as I was around the middle, going to the gym is helping my body shape but even that at the moment isn’t consoling this individual.

How can you meet good looking women when you aren’t in those kinds of social circles?????

 

Couple of things jumped out at me there if im going to be brutally honest mate;


1) Beauty’s in the eye of the beholder, both yours and the “good looking women” you say you want to meet. What you said sounds a bit shallow.

2) Stop being “a plonker”. It’s not usually attractive to any women whatsoever.

3) Join a club, get some mates, go on ride outs, don’t be dependent on one person.

Just my thoughts

 

As always Red you forgot to click the Anonymous button.

This one is a cracker and i know it she can pull most guys and has those come to bed eyes that make most men swoon.

 

If I saw my bird giving out come to bed eyes id bin her tbh.

 

lol

I know but this is me and i havent been with anyone this good looking in years and i am not exacly an oil painting myself tbh

 

It's easier on the outside looking in, so..:

When we bond, the other partner becomes the subject of your adoration. You will "completely adore" the next girl too ( & if she turns out to be "the one", then more so).
Don't chase the affections of someone who isn't eager for the same commitment as you are seeking, that will only harm you.

As for finding "the one", that really is the million dollar question. IMO that's a bit like asking what's the best tyres for my 675; you'll get 100 different reply & all correct in their own way.

Fwiw I gave up looking a while ago, because my personal "the one" is never going to be available for me.
So, perhaps.......:

 

That sentiment says it all, i love chatting, cuddling and generally spending time with another human being, love the affection you can from another person and tbh i have worked through a divorce, my ex wife F**King me over with the CSA and then to top it all stopping me from seeing my kids because a 7 year old doesnt think he wants to see me. Now this happens after i thought we were happy and i an sooooo sad its untrue.

 

I really wouldn't care that much as being alone isn't the same as being lonely!

6 glorious years I have been single and would not want to change it for the world...
Get to a club (sports, bikes, wine, ale etc) or even the internet and get out there.... there is someone for everyone!
PS - don't do anything silly either

 

When this all first kicked off i did think about it and rode my bike like i had stolen it, i found the limits of the tyres i had and had a quick slide on a white line, it then started to chuck it down so i rode it home, it does hurt a lot from time to time and its at this very point that i start to think maybe.. however i am far to chicken to do anything silly so i will try and use all the Emos to epress the hurt, shame and upset i feel right now

 

have you talked to her and told her how you feel? Try being a little less obsessive/possesive.

if she's not into the same stuff as you you need to do your own thing as much as you need to let her do hers, then when you get together you have things to chat about.

 

I am not allowed to talk to her while she sorts her head out, there was a chat the other day about how things are with family and money etc and she realised that its not all gloom and doom. i then got told that she has been thinking and needs some time and space to think and will be in touch. after that i am being given snippets of her life and kept well at arms length. Her friends are telling me to be quiet and just wait for her to come out the other side.

I am hanging on and looking for some stuff to think about and try to stay of the Phone, text or whatsapp and and the moment its hard but i am doing it.

 

That's pretty shabby treatment from her in my opinion. Don't be a victim, cut loose of her and back yourself to pull through. I know it's hard, but long-term it's the best thing for you.

 

When you think about it rationally and i aint at the moment you can see its all ok, and she needs time to think, her kids are back from her ex today so i would imagine she is trying to make sure she is happy and the house is sparkling for them. I am backing off, talked to a few mates that are bloody miles away and its Gym session tonight then off to play Octopush tomorrow and see if i can take my anger out on the led puck !!!

 

Why is it that men and soppy gits when it comes to Love, then when the woman kicks us we return like the little puppy!!!

 

Quick update !!!

I am single and have held my hands up finally and accepted defeat and walked away...

 

wow, a whole day till decision made, isn't the interweb great!

 

Thanks Ed
I am old enough to know better but yet young enough to be foolish in the belief that this woman was over her Ex Husband. I have moved on (well given up) from the relationship due to certain things that she was saying to me and the way that she said them, in her heart of heart there will be a huge hole where the love of her life will forever be (her Ex Husband) and that will take a much better man than me. I am not going to be jumping into any more relationships for a while, I am on the dating sites at the moment but staying anonymous as i am just seeing what’s out there, as i originally said I find this woman extremely attractive and tbh it will be hard to find someone that has all the attributes she has, both physical and mental. yes i know its not all about looks, but when you have been through the last 10 years i have with some of the partners i have had then finding someone that’s good looking, sensitive etc is going to be difficult. my reason for this is that over 5 years of my life before this one I was treated badly by one woman during my ex taking me to the CSA and stopping me seeing my kids and then another one moving in not paying for anything for 8 months then emptying my house when i was at work one day so dating will be a very slow and tentative thing however I don’t want to get too set in my ways as i do have a lot of love to share with the right woman .


I do have friends and yes they are rallying about but they live at least 50 miles away and they have lives themselves, which is always the painful part when you are single .


I didn’t think posing my issues on here was originally a good idea but after seeing various postings and reading the comments that people have made here its comforting that BIKER's will always look after Bikers and being part of the Biker family is great.


I put my bike on EBAY at the start of this week to try and show her that i had grown up and was taking stock and responsibility of my debts (ran up during two very bad relationships) but now as its all turned upside down its been taken off. I am sorry if you were looking at it by the way as i have already had a few people complain. Its at this point i know you will be able to tell who i am but hey if you do please accept my apologies for my rather rash attempt at keeping the relationship alive.

So in essence i am taking stock, taking back my life and going to enjoy what life has to offer, I have my bike, my house, my dog, my health (which my body is taking a battering at the moment due to Gym and my other sports) and this weekend i get my kids for a week, ohh and two family's my Bloody family and my 675.cc Family.

Thanks all and very best wishes to you

If you can guess who i am then PM me

 

think of it as a lucky escape. from the sounds of it, it was going to go sour at some point. take the opportunity to get out on the bike more..meet some like minded bikers and see where that leads.

think maybe you need to try and find a biker chick, rather than a shoes & handbags type girl

 

I hear you there but at what point does it become a pain in the bum as she is always wanting to go out on my bike